Healing is often misunderstood.

Healing isn’t about forgetting what has hurt us or telling ourselves that it doesn’t matter.

Healing is about learning to understand our pain by listening to it, naming it and allowing it to exist without the shame. Shame may feel like the motivation that keeps us pushing through life but in reality it only deepens the hurt. We are continually punishing ourselves which stops us from being able to emotionally heal from trauma and pain.

What we need is to stop punishing ourselves because when we stop fighting our wounds, we begin to find out what we really need so we can begin to emotionally heal. We don’t heal our pain by criticising ourselves into change. We heal by learning to be kind to ourselves and have self-compassion towards ourselves and experiences. We learn to talk to ourselves as if we were talking to a friend who is experiencing the same as we are.

When we stop the judging and the shaming we replace it with self-compassion. The constant judging and shaming of ourselves means we are often living life on constant high alert, in states of anxiety and fear which plays havoc with our nervous system. When we begin to heal the anxiety and fear we live with becomes less and gradually our nervous system begins to calm.

The self-compassion for ourselves becomes stronger than the anxiety and fears and that’s when the healing begins to happen. Healing gives us freedom to feel, to grow and to accept ourselves exactly as we are, whilst still becoming who we want to and are meant to be. Healing is a journey of personal growth. It isn’t about forgetting,  it’s about learning to live well with the experiences that have caused us the trauma and pain.

Healing is a gift you give yourself. Therapy offers a safe, confidential space to explore your experiences, calm your nervous system, and move forward with compassion and clarity.

Contact me today for a free introductory call to see how therapy with me can support your healing journey.

You Matter.

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